
Hey Inspiring Souls!
Todays blog post really is from my Soul and from my Heart. It’s not an easy post for me as it feels like I am putting myself out there a bit more than I am totally comfy with and it’s having to be honest with myself about some things (not usually a fun task but so needed!)
Recently I have had conversations with a few people about loosening the grip in certain areas of their lives, relationships, views of success and how things “should” be to any other number of things. Oh how easy it is to see in others and not so much ourselves at first. But I have not stopped thinking about it and where I am really doing that in my life and how it may not be serving me and probably is harming more than “protecting” me.
Let me explain what I mean by loosening the grip. We (I) can often hold onto things, ideas, relationships and how they used to be, goals etc.. I can often hold on so tightly that I don’t allow room or even refuse to look at what they are or what they could be. The way I explained it to my sister the other day is lets say I have something I really want to do that I know will be good in my life and lets say I needed $100 to make it happen or to really start the process. I am mad, upset, with my fist clenched saying “If I only had that $100 I would be able to…..) All the while not even allowing room or possibility for the fact that if I opened my fist just a bit I would realize I was holding on to that $100 and didn’t realize it because I was so busy telling myself it was supposed to come in a different way or timing.
I would be totally blocking what is and what could be for what I thought it should be, and if i just would be willing to loosen my grip even just a tiny bit I would see what was and what could be.
I have found several ways (probably lots of ways) I have been doing this in my life, and frankly it’s not fun to admit it. I would much rather blame everyone and everything else on why this or that isn’t where I want it to be where it “Should” be. One huge way I have been doing this is in a few family relationships. These relationships have shifted so much over the last year to year and a half and I have found myself having a really difficult time allowing room to build them from where they are because I still feel wounded that they are not where they should be. I have been gripping on so tight I have had a difficult time allowing them to heal and then reveal what is or what could be.
This gripping has also shown up in my finances, health and my ability to really build up my Soul Biz ( the work I do here) I am slowly (some faster than others) learning to loosen the grip and allow for healing, truth and authenticity. (My coaching prices and packages being another area) It’s not easy or comfortable but it’s very necessary in order for me to live, create and open to the kind of life I truly want to and am meant to live. And frankly continuing to live in a state of constant “fist gripping” is toxic and I will not continue to do that to myself!
Where do you need to loosen your grip to open for what is and what could be?
Thanks for listening to my Soul Musings
Here is to living Inspired, Creative and Empowered
Heather