Hey Beautiful Souls,
Something has been on my mind lately, listening and observing myself and some people in my life I noticed that there has been an unconscious tendency to affirm the negatives in our lives.
So I ask, what are you affirming in your life?
Are you affirming the stress, the cant’s , the lack, the chaos, the shoulds?
We do this with our:
Do you hear the way that you talk? Many of us don’t we are semi (or totally )unconscious to the words we are saying to and about ourselves.
Words are incredibly powerful, our thoughts are where our words are coming from right? So why do we give them so little mindful attention. Our words are directly related to the other areas. If I have feelings and beliefs of lack (of worth, time etc.) then you are way more likely to “find” situations that support/prove that right? (It’s like if you are looking for a red car, you are way more likely to find if that is what your attention is on then if you were not looking for it right?!)
Our Self-Talk teaches others how to treat us, more importantly we are teaching ourselves that it’s ok to look for lack, not enough etc. It also is being mirrored by those young ones around you (kids or not) we think they do not notice but they really do (scarily so!) Is this really the legacy you want to pass on to them?
Listen to your self-talk for even a few minutes a day and listen in for what you are affirming. How can you switch it to something more empowering?
Question it, are these things really true about you?
For a moment stop looking for the things diminish your worth and look for things that support your worth and truth.
We often will show what we value and what we are committed to (affirming) by our actions. (Trust me I want to punch this concept in the face too!)
What are your actions affirming? If looking at it this way still stumps you look at it with the idea in mind what Actions are you NOT taking because you have declared defeat (often before even really trying)
Do your actions match what you say you want for your life or are they affirming that this is it, this is as good as it’s going to get? Are you taking actions that are affirming, saying YES to the bigger vision? This is going to look different for all of us and can show up in so many areas of our lives. Even “tiny” actions are a beautiful way to affirm the vision.
We are unconsciously committed to the reality and not the dream, we are putting more energy into the fear then into faith. So our actions mirror that.
Ask yourself, what is one small action I can take this week (or better yet, today!) to affirm what I want to create in my life?
I believe our surroundings are way more powerful and impactful than we realize much of the time.
I get that we cannot control our outer circumstances in some areas of our lives. However we do have a great amount of control over what we surround ourselves with.
Our inner and outer can be very reflected and effected by one another. I know for me personally when I am overwhelmed, stuck, checked out you can see it in my surroundings. I am not saying when I am peaceful that everything magically falls into place perfectly but it’s way more likely to run smoother and seem less chaotic if I am feeling that way mentally and often vice versa!
In thinking about this piece of it I would say that sometimes our surroundings seem to be affirming (unconsciously) lack, not enoughness, settling, sadness, chaos. This shows up in many ways and again it may look different for each of us. Ask yourself do you have a space in your home that you are inspired by (even a tiny one?) do you have reminders of the things and people you love? Or do you have blank walls, piles of chaos, stuff that you got, wear or put up “just for now”… years ago? Do you engage in any of the activities you love (music, painting, cooking).
Look around your surroundings, ask yourself. What am I affirming in this space?
This could also apply in many ways to whom you surround yourself with.
I think there is great power in even starting really small here as I know this is not something that will be solved overnight for any of us (trust me I have tried wishing my clutter and lack mindset away but it’s a practice!) What sights, sounds , images even smells, would support you in affirming what you want to create? Maybe it starts as small as a scented candle, one image (even tear one from a magazine that speaks to you!, Put on the music that moves you, clear out even 1 thing that you don’t love or use (make sure it’s yours to do that with I have been tempted to do this with some of my husband’s stuff lol)
Affirm what you want to create in your life, affirm the good that you have and have had in your life. Affirm yourself your worth in your talk, actions and surroundings!
Here is to living Inspired, Creative and Empowered