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Support Your Change(s)- Friday 5

 

Hey, Beautiful Soul!

We have all been there.  Saying yes, I commit to this change in (the way we eat, write, move our bodies, interact etc… ) only to get past the first maybe few weeks of that and feel like it’s just too overwhelming. I see it over and over with clients, with family and with myself. We expect the fact that we declared it (and often unintentionally sort of half-heartedly not knowing what it would really hold) to then feel overwhelmed, defeated and over it. What we often don’t realize is that we have not really set ourselves up for success, we haven’t really put in the support system(s) we need to make said changes longer lasting and less overwhelming. This isn’t to say that sort of relearning, undoing what is often for many of us years of being, doing, eating a certain way will be filled with total ease… but we can support ourselves by putting some things into place that will support us in those shifts.

  1. Remember your why. Why do you want to make this change? To feel better, be healthier, to have more peaceful interactions, to…. (the list could be endless there are so many types of changes/shifts that we journey towards.  Once you remember your why, put a reminder someplace. It can be totally cryptic to others if you want it to be. An image, word, phrase, shape whatever!
  2. Learn from what has been difficult. So now you know what doesn’t work, what’s been a struggle. Sometimes it’s easier to find a solution by looking at what doesn’t or hasn’t worked then trying to anticipate potential issues. So you might write down here what hasn’t worked… the opposite or solution would be…
  3. Allow space to feel what you feel. Just don’t get stuck there. Nothing wrong with feeling frustrated, sad, angry. However allowing ourselves to get stuck there in the process towards these changes only serves our fear and defeat. (this one is the hardest for me, I am a fixer so I want to get it figured out and move on!)
  4. Set yourself up for success. For example, if I wanted to eat healthier adding in or cutting out certain things (because of a health diagnosis or just to feel better, more energetic etc.) surrounding myself with those very things I vow to avoid is not really helping myself any, it’s setting myself up for failure. I get that we can’t be surrounded by only those things that will not tempt us all the time. But those areas you do have control over such things is what I am suggesting you focus on! This same concept applies to many other areas
  5. Put good support systems and people in place. While this is your journey, nobody said you had to go that alone or without some really supportive tools and people! Is there a vent buddy, accountability buddy you can find? What about a coach or professional (in the field of your change you are wanting to make), what about a book, magazines or articles with helpful, supportive info. Another great tool is to use your phone with reminders through your day. Remind you of your why, to get up and move, to check your total…. for the day. Entering in appointments for rest, self-care, goal tasks, connection whatever in your calendar (digital or paper) is also a great way to support yourself through change. You can go low tech too with post it’s! Put up reminders on your computer, mirror, near where you sit, on something you pick up throughout the day.

Here is to living Inspired, Creative and Empowered

Heather

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Inspired Links-Round the web Goodness!

Hey Inspiring Souls!

For me (as you may have noticed!) I am all about Inspiration so I thought I would share some of what has been inspring me this last few weeks!

My Life is My Message – Via Kimberly Wilson

This interview with the Author of $100 Start Up

This post on change

-Love the way Liz Lamoreux captures moments of life and gratitude with simple lists

Thats some of what has been inspirng me lately, what about you?

Here is to living Inspired, Creative and Empowered

Heather

Creative Prompt-Mix it up

Hey Wonderful Souls!

I love creating it’s what keeps me sane and fresh with ideas… However even things you love doing can seem like a routine every once in a while. So I think it’s important to mix it up every now and again. Try something new, change up your routine, explore other hobbies etc.

I love and engage often in Photography and Visual Journaling as my Creative Self Expression/Exploration. However I have on my 36 while 36 list to try embroidery so I did this last weekend. I only did a tiny bit but it was so fun to mix it up and explore a different way to express myself and feed my creativity.  I really see myself getting into it so I bought a few inexpensive supplies this weekend to do some stitching practice!

While in the mix it up mode, I decided that my creative space needed an updating, I have been displaying my photos on a corkboard and have loved doing that, but it felt time to update the way I displayed the photos. I did and then turned that corkboard into an inspiration board. (Look for a post this next week on this if not earlier in wich I will share more of what I did, it’s still in progress!)

Mix it up by wearing a different combo in one of your “usual” outfits (we all have em, the go to outfit, the one we know works so why mess with it)

Cook something new, try a new spice, go somewhere different to eat. You get the idea, just mix it up a bit. It doesn’t mean the way you have been doing it needs to stop or is wrong, just that you want to keep it fresh!

Oh and speaking of mixing it up, I have made some updates to my blog, so if you are reading this in email or a reader then pop on over and check out the new banner and a few category buttons I created!

Here is to living Inspired, Creative and Empowered

Heather

5 things I want to do differently- Journal Prompt

Hey Amazing Souls!

I have heard myself saying a lot lately I want many things to be different in my life then they are now. Mind you they are not bad, despite several outside circumstances that I am really not happy about I have managed to really keep myself focused a lot more on the things i do have control over and keeping myself in a creative and inspired place. But there are always things that I want to improve, release etc..  I need to keep reminding myself if I truly want some of these things to change then I need to do something different then I have been doing it.. Obvious statement, or is it?

This weeks journal prompt is to:

List 5 things you want to do differently, they can all be toward one common theme/goal or not! It is totally up to you!

Here is to living Inspired, Creative and Empowered

Heather

The distance is not always as far as it may seem…

Hey Amazing Souls!

I have been continuing my journey of living my word this year Light,one of the ways I have been doing that is to continue layer by layer to release physical stuff (as well as mental, but that is a different post!) In the last few rounds of releasing stuff, including books I this time released ones I have had for years and years I have not worked in or read in them in years either so it was time to let go. In flipping through some of these I noticed some notes in them about some things that I even still have on my lists now that I would like to do but am not really doing. I am talking as far back as 2003.

The thing is I am just now realizing that the distance between where we are and where we want to be is not as far as it might feel.  I am not saying that is always true, but I am now seeing so many times it is. We get overwhelmed often with feeling like we have to go from 0-60 in seconds when in reality if we just start, really even the smallest and consistent actions will get us there. Not only will it get us there (or somewhere better!) but it will get us there MUCH faster than if we wait for everything to be just the right timing, to be perfect.(trust me I have tried that 😉

Let me give you a small example from my own life. For years I have had on a list (various lists and places!) to meditate, to have that be part of my daily practice, to explore it, sink into it…For years I start and stop because it’s not looked the way it “is supposed to” (1-2 hours a day, fully clear mind=blissed out) so I have let that stop me. When if I had started all those years ago even with 30 seconds of meditation (sitting, standing,breathing  mindfully) if I had started with even that tiny amount and built on (increased ) it even just 30 seconds a month I would be to at least 30 minutes by now and all built 30 seconds at a time.

I know that often much of what I want seems to out of reach, so far away. But when I really stop and for even just a moment really look at what I want to feel and experience it’s not as far off as it may seem and even if I am slowllly inching towards it, it’s better than standing still waiting for “just the right time” whenever that is…

So I urge you, and urge myself to define it for myself, start now taking whatever size steps even the tiniest ones and then start again when needed..

Here is to living Inspired, Creative and Empowered

Heather

Point of View.. Journal Prompt

When we cling to one point of view, we limit our ability to see what is before us. –Living Your Yoga by Judith Lasater

Where do you need to at least consider a new point of view in your life? I think often changing your point of view and opening up your mind and or your heart can lead to discoveries you would not have experienced otherwise..

Your point of view can be taken in so many ways.. Mentally to a person or a situation, from an actual seeing point of view.. ( like getting to a child’s level to see how they view the world,  taking pictures from a different point of view than normal)

Here is to living Inspired, Creative and Empowered

Heather

A shift in Perspective…

Lately I have been thinking about perspective in several different areas of my life and how important it can be. Where I actually was sparked by was in my art journaling and collage. I would do a page with an idea in mind and be annoyed that it did not turn out the way I wanted it, I would put it away and then go back and look at it later and realize I actually liked it!  I just needed to step away and get some perspective. That does not mean I love all the pages I do, but I can often learn from them about what I would do different, what I like about them etc.

This exact same concept can be used in so many other ways in our lives, relationships, creating, dreams, fights, habits. Sometimes you just need to step back ( actually step back or as a metaphor!) and look at things from a different perspective. It’s there that we can often gain insight, acceptance or a true desire for change in any of those above situations.  It’s so easy to get caught up in the moment of all of these things, never stopping to say: What’s really the issue here? What do I like about this? What is not working in this situation? What is it that I am really upset about? What is it that I really am trying to do or wanting to feel here?

So I encourage you to step back for a bit of perspective in any or all areas that you feel could use a bit of a change of view. I know it’s not always that easy, but it’s a start in the path to creating what you want in your life. I am working on doing this in multiple areas of my and it’s been very telling and helpful!

Here is to a change in perspective for the better

Heather