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I hope this year(quote) – Inspired Words

Hey Beautiful Souls,

This amazing quote has come up on my radar a few times lately and I just love it so much. I wanted to share it with you.

This is SO what I want, I want to re frame how i think of mistakes or even the fear of “failure”.

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I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes.

Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re Doing Something.

So that’s my wish for you, and all of us, and my wish for myself. Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. Make mistakes nobody’s ever made before. Don’t freeze, don’t stop, don’t worry that it isn’t good enough, or it isn’t perfect, whatever it is: art, or love, or work or family or life.

Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, Do it.

Make your mistakes, next year and forever.”
― Neil Gaiman

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Move through- Inspired Words

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The way we each move through fear in our stories is going to look different. Each of these hold lessons no matter how “small” the move. Fear doesn’t have to be a stop sign.

What does your moving through look and or feel like these days?

Here is to living Inspired, Creative and Empowered

Heather

5 words/Phrases to watch out for in your self-talk-Friday 5

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5 words/Phrases  to watch out for in your self-talk

Hey Inspiring Souls! Our self-talk is powerful and we so often are unconscious to what we say to ourselves and about ourselves.

I encourage you to start really listening to yourself. Is your talk empowering, truthful or is it disempowering and fearful?

Here are 5 words to watch out for.

1)      Should, I know sometimes this word just fits in when another one doesn’t.. however it is so often full of much more than just 6 letters.. this can be a sneaky one too as often the -should can be unspoken but is felt.

2)      I can’t.. (do it, afford it, figure it out… )

3)      I don’t know (sometimes this is a totally legit phrase other times for many of us it can become the space filler for truths we are not ready to speak to ourselves or others.)

4)      What’s the matter with me.. When we feel we do things wrong or have made a bad choice this phrase can often pop out of our mouths. Where in this did I disconnect or lose my power instead of what’s the matter with me.

5)      I am such an (idiot, horrible person and so on) though if your “I am such an” ends with things like amazing person, real go getter and uplifting and empowering phrases by all means keep it! But for a majority of us that is much more rare than the disempowering words to end it with.

Really these are just a start, however these are I believe to be some of the most often used words and phrases that we use to ourselves and speak about ourselves.

I encourage you to start to listen, simply listen and notice. How does it feel in your body when you speak this way to and about yourself?

Deep breath, you’ve got this

Here is to living Inspired, Creative and Empowered

Heather

 

 

Affirm Trust- Inspired Words

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Hey Beautiful!

For many of us, things are shifting externally and internally. It’s times like these we need to take a deep breath and remind ourselves gently of truths we need to hear..

One that I have had on “repeat” lately is..

I trust that I am guided and I am held. 

Can you lean into that desire, that deep knowing of this? Just even for a moment?

Here is to living Inspired, Creative and Empowered

Heather

Lessons from my worn out shoes..

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Hello Inspiring Souls!

What walking around in shoes that are falling apart is teaching me about my life lately.. 

I am the type of person that feels like there is messages everywhere around and within us if we are just open to hearing them and telling them.

So recently I was thinking about my very favorite pair of shoes, and how it’s really time to get rid of them but I find myself not only hesitant about releasing them,  but still wearing these shoes constantly. I mean really they have multiple holes in them (and I am sure that is bad Feng Shui or something!) It’s been time to let go for a while. But I resist. (I even have been trying to find and then wear replacements but yet I found myself going back to the familiar)

It got me to thinking about why, and how that relates/reflects what I do in other areas of my life.

Simply put I keep them because they are comfortable and familiar, and what’s visible to most people looks just fine. But they do not really fit me properly (besides all the holes!)

Ummmm, that is strikingly similar to how I operate with other areas of my life- like my dreams, routines and foundations I know I need (and want- at least on some level!)  to put into place. So stay with me here.. the old ill-fitting yet comfortable shoe is the old habit and the new shoes are the new habit (so fear and  courage)

I even have tons of other shoes (again this can totalllly relate to life) ones that if I took time to break them in (kept showing up and practicing tiny acts of courage) they would be a great fit!

While the solution to this particular example could be as “simple” as throw the freaking shoes away! The mindset is the real “thing” that needs to be discarded.

I think I will give myself a timeline to throw the shoes away (hey baby steps here people!) and also make a list of the other ways I see that showing up in my life and what might be one tiny action towards replacing “it” with something more nourishing and empowered. Something that truly fits for the life I want to design.

What is your “ worn out shoe”?!

Here is to living Inspired, Creative and Empowered

Heather

Settling can be Subtle…

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Settling can be Subtle

Sometimes we look at our lives and wonder how the heck we got there. How are we not where we thought we should be or wanted to be?

Life happens, sometimes there is another plan that we cannot even foresee much less the path of getting there (insert the notion that it’s often harder, bumpier and not as straight forward as we think we would like it to be).

I think that other times we have had a repeated pattern of settling for way less than what we really wanted or needed. This settling can be eerily subtle.

I often think it’s tied in with giving our power away. More on this later…

We settle for what I call Space Fillers, so you settle for that job until… but then you are a few years down the road working at that space filler and realizing your out of alignment in more ways than you would like to admit (hello true story for me!)

We settle for that easy meal but not the meal we really are deeply craving

We settle for that relationship and let it just be as it is instead of engaging in it as ourselves fully, desires and all.

We settle for that hand me down furniture that you are blessed to have but totally don’t like or find comfortable

We settle for what fits but doesn’t make us feel good

We settle for toxic relationships because having someone need your or having that “friend” means you are not alone, that you are worthy

It happens because we are reacting to a situation that needs to be solved now (and sometimes that is totally true, other times it just feels like an emergency) We go into that settling with every intention of getting that thing or situation we want just as soon as… But we don’t actively remind or engage in those things that will support the “thing” we ultimately want. We get used to what is bit by bit, subtly.

It can happen by giving our power away as I mentioned earlier in this post . Saying you don’t care when you do, not taking responsibility for our lives (again in subtle ways), not speaking up or speaking out when everything in you says to. By saying yes when you really mean no and vice versa.

How do we stop settling? I can’t answer that for you really it’s going to depend on you, your willingness and openness to changing that. I can however give you a few ways that you might start to notice and shift it that can apply to many situations.

  • Notice it, how can you change what you are not aware of? Simply start noticing where you might be settling in your life. Free write, see what comes up. Ask yourself outright what I am I setline for in my life? (Does life feel too big then choose an area such as job, body, environment etc.)
  • Decide, what area feels like the most immediate need and make a decision to start there even if with small steps
  • Vision, what do you want you know this situation, thing etc. is not what you really want then what is? What does it look like, feel like etc. This is a important step otherwise you could end up with something new that you are settling for!
  • Set yourself up for success. You have figured out where you are settling, decided you want something different, gotten clarity on what that different is now how can you set yourself up for success? Create actions steps (even tiny ones count) and surround yourself with reminders of what you want, how you want to feel etc. We often skip this step and it can be detrimental to our getting what we want. For example if I want to focus on my health but surround myself with junk food and not healthy options it’s unlikely that I am going to be able to get my health where I want it.

Be fierce and gentle this is your life don’t let it be a life filled with things, people and experiences that are place fillers and good enough. Let as much of it as possible be filled with those that light up your soul!

Here is to living Inspired, Creative and Empowered

Heather