Hey Lovely Souls!
I know it’s all too “easy” sometimes to just go along with it, whatever it may be for you. To feel like you don’t want to cause any problems, ruffle any feathers etc.. You don’t even realize at first that you maybe more than you thought care or have more of an opinion then you realized.
We give away our power in even small ways much more than we realize. Look I am not saying don’t ever compromise that is how we can be in most realtionships.But there is a difference between “I will compromise with you on this” mindfully and with intention and just giving up, stepping back when you really do not agree with it, when everything in you is telling you something different (or when you even just get those hints from your body/life) that it’s not right..
So lets look at 5 ways we can STOP giving away our power…
1-Pause before you agree to something, check in with yourself, how do you really feel about it?
2-Define what your values are, it’s much harder to live within your values if you have never taken the time to define them for yourself ( post them in a place where you will see them often) …(look for a post coming up next week on how to determine your values!)
3-Stop saying “I don’t Care” when you really do, I have had this exact same “default” response more than I care to admit and still often do (but making progress!) Even something as simple as saying you don’t care where you go to eat if you have a preference, tell them, but first you have to be able honest with yourself about it!
4-Speak Up, I know, trust me I know this is not easy. I am not suggesting you pick a fight. If there is situation that you feel really strongly about, find the best way you can to express that in a firm, solid and calm manner. I am also not suggesting that you put yourself in a dangerous situation. There are however going to be those times where it’s not really comfortable and it’s not easy to do so people are not going to get it, belive you or support you, however if you are doing so for yourself that is huge and should be acknowledged.
5-Get honest with yourself about in what and with who you are giving away your power, how can we change something, how can we shift it if we are not even aware or willing to look at how we continue to do so.
Be gentle with yourself, we have often been giving away our power in the smallest ways and not even realized it. Bit by bit we can get that power back.
Here is to living Inspired, Creative and Empowered